If you’re a woman and you’ve been in a relationship, chances are that you’re familiar with what even my parents called “the age old battle between man and woman.”
No, it’s not the struggle over whose turn it is to wake up for the baby – it’s the unequal balance between libidos and the resultant compromise one partner has to make.
Men’s libidos spike in their late teens and never really dies, whereas women’s libidos spike in their late 20s (and apparently die after menopause). So really, there are dozens of years where couples have to dance a tango around each other’s sex drive, trying to trick it into higher or lower gear. In fact, women’s sex drive fluctuates with their cycles, day by day, so this tango is more of a fast-paced bachata.
After the recent positive clinical trial results of a drug called Lybrido, The New York Times brilliantly explored this issue and argued that such a medication could perhaps save monogamy. This, in turn, inspired Jezebel to ask why there hasn’t been a pill developed for women until now and why it isn’t on the market. Their argument, after collating data and opinions?
“Experts Fear Too-Effective Female Viagra May Create Lust-Drunk Witches.”
Photo Credit: Jezebel
In fact, The Inquisitr quoted an industry advisor who said that if the drug was seen to be too strong or too effective, that “the F.D.A. would reject an application out of concern that a chemical would lead to female excesses, crazed binges of infidelity, societal splintering.”
So the question comes back to, why isn’t it a question of controlling men’s sexual desires? Why does society think women are incapable of controlling their urges? Why is the burden of monogamy placed on women? And why does the concern for keeping society un-splintered, take precedent over women’s sexual health and their ability to feel pleasure?
The Dr. Oz blog reports that there are fifteen drugs to boost sex drive for men, and there are zero for women. None. And yet, up to 43% of women suffer from some form of sexual dysfunction.
Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD) can manifest itself differently for each woman. Some women may have low libidos; others may experience intense pain when they do have intercourse; and some may suffer from “arousal disorders” where their bodies simply don’t have a normal response to sexual stimuli.
The WISH (Women’s Initiative for Sexual Health) Initiative aims to change the way the industry perceives of women’s sex, their sexual desires, and sexual needs through advocacy. It positions sex as an important component of both physical and mental health. You can see their inspiring video here.
Stand with Maxim Hygiene and sign the WISH petition here, to be shared on behalf of the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health, and become an advocate of your health and the health of women all around the world.