As the New Year approaches, we’ve all taken time to mull over both our good and bad decisions of the past year. We’ve tried to create a static list of our priorities, in the delusion that they will not change month-to-month, or every day-to-day. We promise to stay away from bacon, that smokey temptress, or have vowed to give up brownies, chocolate, and ice cream… or at least to limit our intake of those delicious goodies.
Have you ever thought though, that the concept of setting resolutions for a year is not only impractical, it’s kind of silly? We change every day, with each interaction, with each fact learned, with each new person met, and with each experience. That being said, there are some resolutions, that have to do with mindsets and commitments that can last a year. These are internal dedications, to yourself and your loved ones, that can remain intact no matter what the external circumstances are. So here are 5 resolutions every woman should make to herself for 2014.
1. Become Comfortable with YOU
We were all made fun of by someone, somewhere, at some time and we all carry that baggage around, to varying degrees. The challenge as we grow is to shed those insecurities and begin to embrace those qualities that make us unique, noticeable, and special. Society always fears difference; people retract into commonality to stay safe, but end up stifling development and passion. This new year, emphasize what makes you unique and use it as a shield. If you proudly display your differences, people will have a harder time making you feel badly about them. The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable other people around you will be.
2. Love Your Body
There is no perfect body; keep this in mind as bathing suit season approaches. A lot of outlets will tell you to “get ready,” but the reality is that the way you are right now, is ready. Don’t keep a goal in mind of change and pin your confidence on that change — accept that what you are right now, is great, and that changes aren’t always necessarily improvements. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the most important beholder who will see you every day, is yourself.
As time goes on, your breasts may grow or shrink, they may sag and become wrinkly; your thighs may swell or droop and your butt may jiggle more than ever. The important thing to remember is that at every stage in life, the body is a piece of art, and ultimately, only a shell that encases the mind and spirit. They are ephemeral, whereas our deeds, thoughts, and writings are immortal. Need some help with this one, check out Cameron Diaz’s New book!
3. Indulge Yourself with “Me” Time
This is something every human being needs — time to veg out watching Netflix, time to contemplate decisions, think on life’s choices, and so on. The real definition of meditation is being able to clear your mind of all thought — if you can achieve this, no matter what you are doing, the solace and sublime sense of peace achieved will cleanse your soul. There are many methods of achieving this, but one of our favorite ways is to go on a hike in nature, without your headphones, and find a spot to just sit and observe. If you’re searching for some nature (re: peace and quiet) in the city, go for a walk on the Brooklyn Bridge in the early morning or late at night.
4. Commit to Having Girl Time
I honestly believe there is nothing more therapeutic than being able to vent to your best friends about your life. Even if it isn’t venting, there’s something fulfilling about being able to share your experiences, thoughts, and feelings with a significant other. Why are besties the best? Because you can be totally unfiltered, honest, and crazy with your bestie and they will never judge you. They also will always understand your point of view and if, by chance, they don’t, they’ll still know exactly what you need to hear and when. So, every day or every week, try and mentally commit to making the effort of sending a text, picking up the phone, planning a brunch, or jumping into your friend’s bed to snuggle! The emotional benefits for your mental health are incalculable and indubitable.
5. Surround Yourself with Positives
Society, and particularly women, are assaulted by negatives, whether in the media, the workplace, the classroom, or at bars on Wall St. Women face a deluge of criticism, limits, and objectification that is only enhanced by self-doubt. This New Year, change your mindset to think positively and find the silver lining in each conundrum. Write positive notes and stick them around your apartment or on your laptop; consistently write positive
As you write down your goals for the coming year, share them with us below or on Twitter (@maximhy) and let us know how you intend on improving your life or mindset. We’ll be sharing our “Fierce Woman” goals all year round!